Sunday, January 4, 2026

Separating the Singer from the Singing

Happy New Year! Let's get right to it. 

Usually my first blog of each semester focuses on some aspect of goal setting. As we know, having specific goals (not too vague) that are achievable (just outside of your current capabilities) and written down (not just kept in mind) is a reliable way to move toward improved performance. Let's talk in your lessons about what specific technical and artistic goals you may want to work toward this semester. 

For this first blog of 2026, I was encouraged by an article in the most recent Journal of Singing to consider making an additional goal for the semester. In a piece titled, "Building a Foundation of Trust in Vocal Pedagogy," author Matthew Benkert explores how our identities as singers can become intertwined with our feelings of self worth. As such, negative feedback about our vocal performance can be taken as criticism of who we are as people. This is something I'll discuss further in a later blog. To help prevent this from happening, Benkert suggests working to create a positive environment in voice lessons such that "the singing is separated from the singer." Why? As he says, "Without acknowledging and valuing the student for their humanity, there is little chance the student will value themselves, particularly when receiving feedback in a vulnerable learning environment." 

So, how can we create a healthy separation of our voices from our selves? Benkert offers some advice: "First, it is important that the student be treated as an individual first, then as a musician." Although this applies to how teachers relate to their students, it also applies to how we treat ourselves. We all have a multiplicity of identities, all of which intersect in unique ways that contribute to who we are. We all have values and ideals, morals and guiding principles that influence how we see ourselves in the world and that inform how we behave. In my case, I identify as a husband, son, sibling, friend, citizen, mentor, teacher, and, yes, singer (among other things). I'm a work in progress in all of these areas. I can recognize times when I have not been as good of a son or friend as I could have been, just as I can recognize times when I have not been as good of a teacher or singer as I am capable of. Those instances don't make me a bad person—they make me a PERSON. Building relationships takes time and attention, just like building vocal skills. And there is no final destination to reach, since we are always evolving. 

When you step into your voice lessons, you don't stop being all the various parts of who you are. You bring that along with you, which is exactly what you should do. I have often said that your voice is not your art. It's only the vehicle through which you bring your art to an audience. Your LIFE is your art. When you live a life of openness, curiosity, conversation, exploration, and relationship, you build a reservoir of deep experiences (both positive and negative) that form who you are. Once you know who you are and who you want to be, and determine the values that stem from each of your identities, you tend to act accordingly. 

The amalgamation of these experiences (who you are) is what you bring to your performances—not just your vocal capabilities. In fact, in my opinion, the only reason to cultivate and build our vocal capacities is so that we are better able to communicate what we know and feel in our hearts. If forced to choose, I would always rather watch a performance of someone with a less-polished voice expressing something heartfelt than someone with pristine tones who doesn't have much to say. 

Of course, as we all know, our vocal instruments certainly do require both training and care, especially if we are to build sustainable careers. But, if we become bound to our voices in such a way that it keeps us from having relationships and experiences, it comes at the expense of developing our artistry (our lives). 

The good news is that you don't have to abandon your routine and your schedule in order to seek out life-altering experiences so that you might build an artistic life. Mother Teresa is credited with having said, “Not all of us can do great things, but we can do small things with great love.” Every day we are surrounded by opportunities to have meaningful experiences (or to be the impetus for meaningful interactions). All we have to do is be open to them and have the courage to pursue them. 

So, alongside establishing some goals to help build your technique and creativity this semester, what are some goals you have to build your artistry? In other words, how can you be more intentional about making the experiences of your days and your relationships with others more meaningful and, thus, your life more of a work of art? 

Let's have a great semester. 

Now go practice. 



6 comments:

  1. What a blog to kick off my final semester of college! A lot of the ideas that you discussed here are things that I have been thinking a lot about during this break.

    Thinking about post grad, I find myself panicking about not consistently booking. I've had to reframe my mindset to, "what other beautiful things could happen in my life if I'm not in a show?"...could I travel to that place I've always wanted to go? Could I focus on a different skill set? Could I spend the time with my family that I didn't get to over the past four years?

    These thoughts about experiences rose because as I was doing Naked Mole Rat, I was thinking about how what truly made that experience wonderful was the people. It was trying new lunch spots between shows, it was making inside jokes, sharing music in the car, and planning hang outs outside of the theater. People, conversations, and questions are my favorite parts of theatre. I think I can sometimes forget that the world is made up of those three things everywhere you look.

    Nourish, trust, expand, and presence are my words for this final semester of college.

    Let's do this!
    Alexa Shaheen

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  2. Brian! I am so excited to be back in your studio. Wow this blog post was very enlightening (as they usually are). We cannot lose the artistry in this art form!

    A couple points I would like to bring up that you made that really resonated with me. I love how you mentioned that we train and cultivate our voices to be able to further express and communicate how we feel in our hearts. That really opens up a new point of view for me. Another point is that whenever you are singing or performing, you are bringing your own self with you to that moment. It reminds of something that I learned in acting, which is that you should be bringing yourself to all the characters that you are portraying, because it is you who is embodying them, and you shouldn't find the need to find frustration in not being able to mimic someone else because you aren't them. To all the characters you play in your lifetime, they all stem from the root of you, so yeah if I'm playing Pinocchio in Shrek, I am playing Pinocchio as myself, as Ratanak, being completely aware of the fact that it's still me!

    I do want to continue to focus on individuality, and finding my own strong points, whether that be in singing or dancing or whatnot but also in social settings. What do I bring to the table when I'm conversating, and also what do I not, and do I let these things prevent me from being more social or learning something new about someone or something. Taking each day not for granted (for lack of a better word haha) and to enjoy every moment possible, no matter how hard it can be. This semester I am taking classes outside of the theatre program for the first time, and the desire to learn and to absorb information is stronger than before.

    Thanks again Brian for another beautiful blog post.

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  3. Brian! This post was so helpful to hear, especially at this time. I am very guilty of forgetting that I am human in my pursuit of simply trying to learn and grow as a performer. I can spare all the details, but let's just say, separating the art and the way I perform from my sense of self and who I am is definitely still a work in progress. Recently, I've really been trying to lead with confidence as well as combining it with consistent practice as I move through this final stretch of my senior year. I've noticed that I am such a people pleaser, to the point where it started to get me down. I have really been trying to exercise my use of expressing what I really want, and not backing down so easily. Starting to say no. And honestly, it feels really nice to be heard. Continuing on, I have really tried branching out and seeing what other experiences and hobbies fill my cup to but more substance into what I do, as well as just further discovering who I am. We will see what awaits me as I continue to explore and get to know myself better!

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  4. Brian, Thank you for always putting your students first. Your student-oriented approach to teaching voice is what creates such great young men and women who leave your studio.

    I used to be such a harsh critic of myself, and I've made great steps across years to let loose of it. However, I still find myself beating myself up in your lessons about not (yet) being able to do some really challenging things with my voice. The best part in this blog post for me is when you said, "Those instances don't make me a bad person—they make me a PERSON." I will never be able to clear bad thoughts about myself 100%. However, what I can do is learn to love myself for my mistakes and create a mindset that will help me grow in my ability as a person and a singer.

    Ryan P. Gregory

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  5. Another great post to kick off my (final) semester :’)

    I really appreciated the part where you said “I can recognize times when I have not been as good of a son or friend as I could have been, just as I can recognize times when I have not been as good of a teacher or singer as I am capable of. Those instances don't make me a bad person—they make me a PERSON.” I feel the need to get this tattooed on my brain. I have gotten good at giving myself grace as a person in my personal life but it’s like I treat my singing as if any mistake is a fatal error. I’m much more critical of my art because it’s what my heart is, but I’m working on recognizing that critical does not have to be bad. My heart is seen without even having to vocalize.

    This is certainly a goal I have for myself to recognize. In my final semester, I want to strengthen my relationships with not just those around me, but especially with myself.

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  6. “Your voice is not your art. It's only the vehicle through which you bring your art to an audience.” This is something that literally hit me like a bus reading this phenomenal blog (you’ve done it again Brian). The idea of using your voice in different ways to serve the story you’re telling, not just to show off pristine technique is something I’m still wrestling with. I’ve had a few performances where I have allowed myself to lead with intention and character instead of sounding good—these are often performances where my character is angry, frustrated, or heartbroken. I know that I feel a lot more from a performer that feels the weight of what is happening to them rather than serving some stellar vocals. Both are still good, and singing well is still something we will always strive for, and often is called for in many more contemporary performances, but we are actors first. You are acting through your scenes, your songs, your movement, and any moment you are onstage. I feel very deeply, which tends to make my life feel a bit overwhelming, but when it comes to performing, I want to be able to replicate that range of emotions and experiences. It’s a work in progress, as it will continue to be for the rest of my life.

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