When I was growing up, at any given time there was a stack of books—7 or 8 high—next to my dad’s reading chair. Rather than finishing one book and moving on to a new one, he would have a constant rotation and each night would read the book that interested him the most at the time.
I have inherited that same trait. Right now my stack includes two books on singing, two magazines, a novel, a book about the 2004 Cubs, and two books on spirituality.
I’m always fascinated by books on religion and spirituality and the philosophies they espouse, not only for the guidance they bring to my own life but as a window into what guides others in their lives. I’ve collected a lot of these books over time and on our shelves at home you can find the Tao Te Ching next to the Koran next to the Book of Mormon next to The Gospel According to The Simpsons, all of which have provided insights in their own way.
Another reason I like to read books about spirituality is for all of the applications I find between spiritual practice and the act and art of singing. One of the quotes I came across earlier this semester that has stuck with me was from the author and Roman Catholic priest Dom John Chapman, OSB, who once wrote, “Pray as you can. Don’t pray as you can’t.” To me, that seems to imply that we should not blindly accept someone else’s spiritual practice just because it is theirs. Rather, we should each find what works best for us.
Paraphrasing this quote, I considered, “Sing as you can. Don’t sing as you can’t.” What seems obvious on a first reading is not so easy in application.
Despite our best efforts, so often our vocal studies stray from discovering and cultivating our own unique voices and instead devolve into developing an expected sound or the sound of someone else whose voice we admire. While it is important to work to improve our vocal capabilities, accepting our unique voices is as important as accepting who we are.
Much as I love spending an afternoon listening to Wagner opera (or a whole day, which it sometimes takes), my phone isn’t exactly ringing off the hook with offers to sing the Ring cycle. It would be just as ridiculous for me to try to become a Wagnerian tenor as it would for me to try to be 6’5”. It's just not who I am.
I bring this up now because often in preparations for performances (like juries and class finals), I see students growing increasingly frustrated that their voices are not everything they want them to be. I wish the opposite would occur. Performance is exactly the time when you should be embracing your vocal capabilities and using those capabilities to tell stories to the best of your current abilities. Sure, in another year or two or five, you will have greater capabilities and can tell those same stories in different ways. But you’re not there now so there’s no sense bemoaning what you can’t do at this point.
So this can be one last element to add to your practice in this last month before finals. Sing as you can, because you all can. But don’t waste mental or emotional energy trying to sing as you can’t.
Embrace who you are.
Now go practice.
As someone who only recently started getting actual vocal training, it's frustrating to look at other people my age and see that they are miles ahead of me. I know they have so many more years of training, but it still just sucks sometimes seeing people my age who are so much more capable singers than I am. I keep reminding myself, though, that I'm on my own singing journey.
ReplyDeletePracticing has been going well this week! I had three weeks around spring break where I barely practiced because I was in New York and then immediately got sick. It was super discouraging showing up to my voice lesson last week after those three weeks and just feeling vocally weak. This week I really tried to make up for lost time, and made sure to practice for an hour every day. I can still feel like the effects of not practicing for so long, but I already am feeling so much stronger.
I will Admit! Ramin Karimloo is one of my favorite Actors on broadway today and his voice is Amazing!!! I have tried many a time to try and sound like him he has the leading man sound that I like but I realized when I am focused on trying to sound like someone else, I don't focus on the story and then i won't be authentic in the Audition room. I have Realized that the majority of shows that have booked are because of me being me and not pretending to be anyone else.
ReplyDeleteI have been very busy as of late I had two auditions in Boston and one Audition in L.A. and life has been crazy busy! Today in voice I felt like I have broken through a little of bit and started accepting my sound as me and not trying to sound like anyone else. This is a major step for me! We don't need approval from other people! You and only you are what people are looking for!
This is actually along the lines of something I relate to and struggle with. I love singing in the car, it has truthfully become a hobby of mine. The confined space that comes from sitting in a car has really grown on me. I know it can be harmful to the voice/practice to sing a long to songs on the radio because it forces us to sound like the singer and sing in unusual and often unhealthy placements. I'm currently working on songs in my Jury set that I love to sing with the originals in my car. I find that when I'm alone in my car singing to these songs, I sound amazing, but once I work it as a solo in my lessons, it's like I've never sang the song before.. This is the current battle I struggle with, but I've been trying to be more conscious when singing in the car. My attempt is to take what I learn from my lessons and bring it with me to my singing sessions in my car; I've also found that turning down the volume helps too. Another focus point I've been targeting this semester is, trying to enjoy the sound of my own voice more. I find, even in lessons, I hold back because I'm still not secure in my sound. But as my voice progresses, so will the love for my instrument.
ReplyDeleteI often feel like I have a lot to prove to people when it comes to singing. What has always grounded me and kept my craft true to myself, is storytelling. I am always reminding myself, I have worked so many years to cultivate my craft and it is so strongly based on storytelling. I think I am pretty good in audition situations, or performances in front of my classmates, at telling myself to just do the work. Do the work, and tell the story. I think going into finals, with so much stress piling up, I need to continue to remind myself of that.
ReplyDeletePractice has been good this week, I LOVE working on Sondheim, so it doesn't feel like rehearsing or practice. I am excited for finals and I am very pleased with the progress I have made this semester. I feel like I have found a lot of variety. Exciting!
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First of all, I would like to point out that I have never been within the first 5 to comment on a blog post... and a few days before the deadline no less!!
ReplyDeleteI really like this post. I feel like I'm constantly comparing myself to my friends, because I have the pleasure of hearing them sing around the house or while we're spending time together. I always beat myself up because I don't sing like Kat, or Mon, or Ashley, or Dom (lol). They each have their unique styles which make them superior. What I fail to remember is that I also have my style which makes me unique. I wouldn't think that all of them were as wonderful if they each sounded the same as the other. In general, I am a huge culprit of comparing myself to the people around me. I think I would cause myself a lot less stress if I just allowed myself to move forward at my own pace instead of telling myself that everyone else in my class made huge leaps forward today, and I'm still where I was this morning. The times when I focus on myself are the times I make the most progress. Imagine that. There are plenty of people who have become famous by singing other people's songs their own way. I think it's okay to strive to be like our role models in some aspects, but we should also remember and appreciate what makes us different.
I love this. It's such a difficult lesson. There's a very fine line between learning from someone's voice, their style, their technique, their approach, their tricks, and comparing oneself to them and getting frustrated that one can't produce the same sounds. I find that it's difficult to approach old school music because that style isn't natural to me and I always think I have to sound a certain way instead of thinking that I have to have a specific mouth shape and technical approach. It's so hard to compare to other voices because we can't really hear ourselves the way other people hear us and we have such unique instruments. I think it's important to remember that we are a complete package. Just because one person can do one thing and that worked for them doesn't mean anything for me. I have a whole host of things to offer and I'm glad it will be different and new and unique to me. It's hard to learn without jealousy but it's important.
ReplyDeleteThis brings to light singing along to cast recordings and how much that can take away from our own voices in the song. I know I am super guilty of singing along to the recording and thinking that I sound exactly like who I am hearing and then being shocked that I don't sound the same later when I sing on my own. Its frustrating. But I know that I have to find my own voice in the song instead of just imitating someone else's because it won't teach me much and will only damage whatever relationship I have with my own sound and my own voice.
ReplyDeleteI've been trying to make a list of things I like about my voice because in the world of trying to sing as other people I start to compare myself with other people which never goes well. So lately in an effort to end that and have a healthy relationship with my voice I've tried to focus in on my own journey and my own voice because really you can't compare yourself to others because everyone is drastically different. It has really made a difference I think in how I sing songs especially like "Heaven Help My Heart" because what I know in the song is my own voice, not Idina's.
I honestly think I'm pretty good about not trying to sound like anyone else. If I listen to a broadway cast recording, the only thing I sometimes imitate are vowel choices. I do, however, get discouraged often if I compare myself to other voices in the program. This isn't because I don't think my VOICE is as good--I really like my tone and my quality, but it's because of the SKILLS I feel they have that I do not. Skills that I believe anyone can do, they just have to be taught. Maybe I'm wrong, I just wish I knew.
ReplyDeleteI have disliked how my voice sounds naturally for a long time. But for the last year and a half(ish), I have come to the realization that it isn't my enemy. I can improve haw I use it, but there are fundamental parts that will always be present. And that I'm possibly the only person who actually dislikes them (no one's told me my voice sounds weird at least). So I can just work on the huge amount of things I can change. And that's good enough for me.
ReplyDeleteI definitely see how being true to your own voice is so important. Its very important to be able to have correct technique in my voice but overall it will always be my voice. I have been frustrated as I wish that I was able to do a lot of riffing when I sing. I definitely can work on it but I do know where my strength in my voice lies and it is not in riffs. It has taken me a long time to get to like my voice but I am recently starting to appreciate its strengths and the way it is progressing.
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DeleteI have been thinking about this a lot in regard to my senior recital. I am singing so many different songs that all have a different meaning to me. There are some, however, that I don't feel as connected to as I would like. I'm not sure of why that is, but it is making those songs be harder for me. I am trying to be my best self vocally so I can make sure that I don't sound like a recording of someone else.
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to a performance or jury, I know that it sounds right if it sounds like me. I think the only time I fail to embrace my voice is if I forget lyrics, a rythm, a note ascension or descension, etc. So it's not so much my voice, but my failure to execute something that I'm fully capable of changing. I am excited for Jury's coming up and am happy that I will be able to showcase my songs and hopefully sing simply as I can.
ReplyDeleteI absolutely love this blog post. Embracing myself fully as an actor has been an active and invigorating journey for which I am so thankful for. I feel that while I may never "accomplish" total self acceptance, I am fully aware of how the only person I can be as an actor is myself. That's the great beauty and the great fear of it, is that I only have myself to give and generate from as an artist, but that is also all I need. I am definitely not far along on this journey with regards to my voice and singing, but I intend to think much more consciously about it as part of my growth as a well-rounded artist. For the remainder of the semester, I will not waste any emotional energy struggling to sing as I can't.
ReplyDeleteGood post. I often feel as though I am struggling in class because of how low my voice is. I find myself devoicing during certain warm-ups and songs because I don't want to accidentally squawk around others. It's always been something I'm self-conscious about and has played a large part in losing my taste for singing. Call it egocentric, but the vast majority of musicals I've heard I always felt were for voices far and away from mine, and so I've had trouble being interested in singing. I feel my voice belongs nowhere near the musical aspects of theatre. But if I tell myself there's no use for me working on singing, I'll go nowhere. It's a personal issue I need to work to overcome. I'm sure it will come with more practice. The more I get to know my voice, the more I will be comfortable with what I'm capable of. I'll be able to embrace it.
ReplyDeleteFor me, patience is key. I always tell myself not to become upset when I can't sing a certain note or do something correctly. I know my voice right now and I do not want to ruin it by trying to be someone I'm not. Accepting myself this semester has really helped me become emotionally strong and mentally prepared to sing anything. I am happy with what I am learning and I know my voice only gets better from here!
ReplyDeleteI think the idea of doing what you can do only as you can do it can be applied to all things and comes with a lot of truth to it. Especially when it comes to art whether it be singing or acting it is easy to want to sound or look like someone else because their are so many talented people in our field. I have been thinking about this subject a lot in my own acting throughout this year because it is so easy to get caught up in the work of others or feel as though that is what it is "supposed" to look like. This is especially easy when playing iconic characters such as Blanche, Juliet which are both characters I have worked on this year. I have had to learn to understand that no one can play Juliet the way I can and that I will never be able to play Juliet the way someone else can, thats what makes it so amazing. In terms of singing the same idea applies and I am working on welcoming it.
ReplyDeleteI really love this post. I am in the very early stages of my vocal training, and at times I find it frustrating to look at people my age who are so far ahead of me in their vocal capabilities. I am often to hard on myself, and as of late I am making an effort to remember that progress is key, and it always comes with hard work. I am constantly reminding myself that I am the unique thing I bring into the audition, rehearsal, or classroom, and that I always have something new and unique to offer that comes from my own experience. Working hard, yet remembering not to be to hard on myself is what will make me a good artist.
ReplyDeleteI needed this. For my entire life I've been horrified of singing in front of people because the sounds that came out of my me didn't sound like what I thought they should. I think it's important to recognize that I'm at the beginning of a life long journey, and that I do have ways and ways to go, but to also accept that I'm never going to sound like the iconic voices I've grown up with. And while in this vein, I'd just like to say how thankful I am for this class and even having the opportunity to sing in front of my peers. I never would have imagined being able to sing publicly even a year ago, so I'm thrilled to see where my singing journey takes me in the next few years.
ReplyDeleteI definitely go through this process every year with my music and not being at the level that I want my voice to be at. I have noticed that I am feeling that a bit less each year and notice the improvement, but there is also the higher level of difficulty in the songs that I am working on. I do everything I can to release this nervousy and focus on what my voice is capable of, but emotions can be very hard to control. When the time for finals get closer, I do come to the acceptance that it may not sound Broadway ready, but it sounds ready for where I am now in my training and that brings me comfort.
ReplyDeleteThis is something I am always struggling with. I want my voice to be so much more than it is. And its mostly not that I sing things that are out of my wheelhouse but its just that I try to sing them on days when my voice is just not there. Towards the end of the semester I find myself struggling to stay a float on top of all my responsibilities and tasks I want to achieve, as well as taking care of myself physically. I have noticed the effect this has had on my voice. Being tired does not make it easier to sing as it turns out. So while, on some days, I can belt my little heart out, on other days I need to learn to be easier on myself and pace my voice. This is something I am going to focus on as we approach the end of the semester, as well as making sure to take care of myself. Drink more water, less coffee. Sleep more. etc.
ReplyDeleteThis is something that is very important to me. For a long time before coming to college I was so focused on being as good as other people. I would set my goals in relation to someone else's accomplishments, rather than making them right for me. I have learned a lot about my voice and its uniqueness and I love that.
ReplyDeleteME RIGHT NOW... More specifically during cats... I had no time getting over a cold while balancing tech and rehearsal, and remained sick throughout the course of CATS' tech and run.... A VERY demanding show both vocally and physically. So I definitely had to rely on my artistry and what I CAN do this past weekend
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